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'How to Heal Your Marriage and Nurture Lasting Love'

  • Writer: Pätrick K
    Pätrick K
  • Dec 17, 2019
  • 2 min read

Updated: Jan 31, 2020


I am going to give a disclaimer, that this book has tones of religion interwoven through this.  It would be ignorant not to mention the challenge of reading for the larger idea, past the religious context.  More specifically, the word ‘ritual’ is basically on every third page. Lol...


However, I could divide the book up into two sections- Intention Interpretation and Conflict Management Caretaking.


The first sections of the book navigates throughout the intersections of intention in partnership engagement.  It talks about both sides of perceived intentions.  There is importance to habit, trust, and focusing on better intent than having go-to misunderstandings to see our partner as a ‘frenemy’.

The later part of the book is more about fallout management, how to embrace love and care through conflict.  It talks about timeouts and the culture we live in that has outside parties thrive off of others’ conflict...very basic introductory things.  All in all- this book is a lot of fluff as to address firm-on-the-ground conflict, it does not really address anything around mental health, environmental factors, a depth to social constructs around the individuals, stress management, or anything else.  It requires almost an autonomous individual void of learning any other social skills to be in a marriage with conflict for the first time...oriented more towards premarital counseling. I do see the appreciation of applying the ‘trust in the best intention for the coupleship’ in my own life.  I, admittedly, do struggle at times when I actually learn my intentions are mistaken and seen like I am looking to be divisive.  The second part of the book, I think my take away was the fear of when you take a time out, and what happens if you don’t ever come back together...and how that feeds into my avoidance/isolation symptoms of C-PTSD.   I am not sure what I was going to get from this book...perhaps I put it at a distance right off for the Judeo-Christian approach...I think it mostly was just so simplified and basic with introductory topics, I was let down as to ‘find the key’ to understanding mental health within the context of my marriage.  Then again...I would not be on this multi-book adventure if there was one failsafe book to read.



 
 
 

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